Sisterly Advice How To Stay Positive Motivation Happiness Tips

Sisterly Advice: How to Stay Positive When Life Gets Hard

Today I wanted to talk about something that a few site members have brought up in the comments recently: how to stay positive, even if things aren’t going well. Ever feel like you’re the only one having a hard time out of everyone around you? Been there… we all have. Problems seem even greater around the holidays because we know it’s supposed to be joyful – the most wonderful time of the year, right? You’ve probably heard the words “change your attitude, change your life” – and as tough as it seems, it’s true. Here are a few ways to maintain that positivity even if you’re going through a rough patch, and to really be thankful for what you do have…

Count Your Blessings. There is always something to be thankful for, no matter how small. So celebrate the little things—that compliment you received from a stranger, the hugs from your little ones or anything else that made you smile. If it helps, write down those things, and look back on your list every time you have a bad day—it’s guaranteed to lift your spirits!

Be happy for others. One of the biggest challenges to staying positive is knowing that while you’re struggling, the people around you are having the opposite experience. Though it’s sometimes difficult, research shows that those who support their partner and friends in their success have a way of “piggy-backing” on that happiness and creating more positive energy for themselves. Plus, it goes both ways—ideally, the person you support will also support you, contributing to stronger personal relationships, and a greater sense of positivity.

Step out of your comfort zone. According to Psychology Today, studies have shown that what makes people happy is often an anxiety-inducing sense of curiosity. Having a willingness to try new things opens the doors to new pleasures that you may have never known. When you find yourself feeling discouraged by the routine events in your life, try making a change and do something you never thought you would. It may lead you to something more rewarding… but even if not, you will learn something about yourself you didn’t know before.

Consider what makes YOU happy. Being a working momma can cause you to put all things “me” on the backburner. While you should always strive to make a difference in the lives of your loved ones (see point #2), create a balance that also includes considering your own happiness. If you’re stuck in a rut, think of what is bringing you down, then brainstorm ways add in things that you really love doing, like hobbies you never make time for or planning for that big trip you’ve always wanted to take. Things like this will get you going, and get you through to the light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you going to take these steps to a more positive outlook? What helps lift you up when you’re feeling down? Share your ideas in the comments!

Xx,
Tamera

17 thoughts on “Sisterly Advice How To Stay Positive Motivation Happiness Tips

  1. Latricia Giles

    When I am in the dumps, I mope around the house, cry, have a pity party, and feel sorry for myself. Then I shake out of it and do my passion…. I bake my arse off, lol! I eat a little of my goodies, usually the ones smothered in chocolate, and take the rest to my coworkers. Not only does this make me feel better, but the fact that my desserts brought joy to others makes me feel a thousand times better :). So, the moral of the story, do something you love to lift your spirits and then unexpectedly lift the spirits of others and you will be at an all time high 🙂

  2. Nissy O

    WHEN I’M DOWN & DEPRESSED I DRAW ALL MY ATTENTION TO GOD IN THE FORM OF PRAYER. THIS IS THE ONLY WAY BECAUSE WITH MY PARENTS HAVING CANCER, MY BROTHER SICK & MY JOB POSITION BEING ELIMINATED IT’S NOT EASY AT ALL TRYING TO MAKE ENDS MEET AND STILL STRUGGLING. IF YOU KNOW OF A JOB WHERE I CAN STAY HOME & TAKE CARE OF MY PARENTS & HELP THEM MOVE FORWARD & STOP ONE OF THEIR SUFFERINGS, I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE IT. I COULD HELP YOU WITH DATA ENTRY, PHONE CALLS, ANYTHING OR IF YOU CAN REFER ME TO SOMEONE WHO CAN EMPLOYEE ME. YOU CAN DO A BACKGROUND CHECK ON ME. MY BIRTHDAY IS ON THANKSGIVING & I DON’T WANT ANYTHING. MY ONLY WISH IS TO GIVE THANKS FOR A NEW JOB IN ORDER TO BE AT HOME WITH & HELP MY FAMILY SINCE MY MOM’S WISH IS THAT I HELP HER BECAUSE SHE IS SO DEPENDENT ON ME AND IS ELDERLY WITH CANCER. I AM THE ONLY ONE THEY HAVE SINCE WE DON’T HAVE ANY OTHER FAMILY HERE WHERE WE LIVE. I HAVE GREAT REFERENCES BECAUSE I WORKED FOR A POLICE DEPT WHEN I LIVED IN NY & I HAVE WORKED FOR CHURCHES ALSO. I CAN GIVE YOU THE CHIEF OF POLICE’S NUMBER FOR HIM TO LET YOU KNOW THE KIND OF PERSON/WORKER I AM. THANK YOU, GOD BLESS & I PRAY TO GOD TO MAKE MY BIRTHDAY WISH COME TRUE. 🙂

  3. desig17

    i love this!! thank you so much. I am trying to work on the attitude people think I give them because of my tone and I really have to change how I see the situation to what others see!

  4. Tracie Brackins

    I love this post…Get home and practice dancing… Flip my hourglass take deep breathe and once it done think of something else… I been doing some of the above doing new things it really does help and continue doing things and new things will come to light …
    Enjoyed your post

  5. Sherna

    I will take the steps to a more positive outlook! I needed this. Thank you for putting it out there because sometimes we get to such a low place and can’t figure out how to get back on track.

    What lifts me up is listening to music – gospel reggae…anything that makes me dance.

  6. Stephanie Lawson

    I work in a very stressful environment. Don’t get me wrong, I like my job and it has been a very stable career for me. However, you can always expect the unexpected. As I have gotten older, I realize that life is full of challenges and test and as I have gotten older I realize you have to be positive in all circumstances.

  7. Cherrie

    Yes!!!..Changing your thinking is definitely the key. Count your blessings and know through the GRACE of GOD you stand. Learn from the mistakes and acomplishments of those whose footsteps treaded similiar or unwanted paths be and head the warnings and advice. A humbled,grateful, and steadfast and prayerful demeanor would help you navigate to calmer waters!!!

  8. karole

    with all the life hustles remaining positive is hard but through articles of insight and the strong will to be positive then we can forge ahead.positivity begets positivity we attract what we are

  9. Aniseta Larsen

    Thank you for this….love being positive and doing new things to remain that way every day. I have 2 children and a hubby, I stay busy. I count my blessings every day. 🙂

  10. Anna

    Thanks for this… really appreciate! I have come to realise that prayer helps as well and gives you the calmness, and grace to be able to do all the above you mentioned for others.

  11. Uzo Izuora-Nsien

    I definitely live by the steps that you listed. Prayers and Solitude is the key. I am a joyful person because I count my blessings everyday. My parents left me a legacy to be content with what I have. Positivity comes from the heart and acquired though. It is a choice to be joyful which does not depend on what you have. It comes from God. Thank you guys for showing that. We, Nigerians are naturally joyful people even with limited resources back home. I teach Angel and George, my kids that life is not a bed of roses. My hubby and I are christians and we are taught to be happy for others, count our blessings, stepping out of our comfort zone.( went back to school at 42)….LOL and we both know how to make each other happy. Thanks for sharing.

  12. Abbi

    Thanks Tamera for the post,i always try to start my day with a positive mind,God only give us enough grace for each day i cant waste my energy on negative things,yes the enemy will try to rob us of our minds ,but God says we need to believe in His word and because He has overcome we are more than overcomers. I choose to stay positive and with Jesus in my life i can smile at the storms.

  13. Ina Turner

    Tamera, love this post..I stay positive by always remembering that God is my refuge and strength a very present help in time of trouble(ps 46-1),I stay focus,keep moving,trusting and believing MY God and the sun always shine again.blessings to you.
    God,family and everythings else always work for me.

  14. Jamie Johnson

    Right now, I am depressed. I’m a fairly recent graduate of college. Looking for jobs has been rough. Especially when you have to up keep with IT Certifications in order to meet the additional requirements to get the job, but having no job to pay for the certification is a “Debbie Downer”. I’ve been out of work for 3 mos. What is helping me, is that the transition is little by little, but it is happening. Reading positive outlooks such as this, Taking my younger cousins to their destination and helping with homework (I’m single with, no kids, but family is very important to me), I’m mostly thankful for my parents for their encouragement and support. It’s not easy, especially when you’re in a negative stage, but I thank God for them everyday.

  15. Quay

    Hi Tamera…to be honest when I’m feeling low i go straight to my TV and turn on my bible study time orrrr i talk to my momma. i step out of my comfort zone a year and half ago because i was unhappy and i wanted to try new things but i know that dreams ambitions take time and the one person I’m depending on is me and God. so the days I’m not in a positive mood i talk myself out of that spirit and spend time in the word to lift my spirits..

  16. La'Nita Peppers

    Tamera, Lately I have been understood a little more about being positive. And if I feel I start to forget it, I pray. No one knows me better then God and my trust in him grows more often then I realize. I have some of my favorite songs that are a go to if I have to go to work… When I actually need some immediate understanding I go to my mom or good friend, But all by myself I turn to prayer. It helps me forgive, and stay positive!!

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