Sisterly Advice: How to Stay Positive When Life Gets Hard
Today I wanted to talk about something that a few site members have brought up in the comments recently: how to stay positive, even if things aren’t going well. Ever feel like you’re the only one having a hard time out of everyone around you? Been there… we all have. Problems seem even greater around the holidays because we know it’s supposed to be joyful – the most wonderful time of the year, right? You’ve probably heard the words “change your attitude, change your life” – and as tough as it seems, it’s true. Here are a few ways to maintain that positivity even if you’re going through a rough patch, and to really be thankful for what you do have…
Count Your Blessings. There is always something to be thankful for, no matter how small. So celebrate the little things—that compliment you received from a stranger, the hugs from your little ones or anything else that made you smile. If it helps, write down those things, and look back on your list every time you have a bad day—it’s guaranteed to lift your spirits!
Be happy for others. One of the biggest challenges to staying positive is knowing that while you’re struggling, the people around you are having the opposite experience. Though it’s sometimes difficult, research shows that those who support their partner and friends in their success have a way of “piggy-backing” on that happiness and creating more positive energy for themselves. Plus, it goes both ways—ideally, the person you support will also support you, contributing to stronger personal relationships, and a greater sense of positivity.
Step out of your comfort zone. According to Psychology Today, studies have shown that what makes people happy is often an anxiety-inducing sense of curiosity. Having a willingness to try new things opens the doors to new pleasures that you may have never known. When you find yourself feeling discouraged by the routine events in your life, try making a change and do something you never thought you would. It may lead you to something more rewarding… but even if not, you will learn something about yourself you didn’t know before.
Consider what makes YOU happy. Being a working momma can cause you to put all things “me” on the backburner. While you should always strive to make a difference in the lives of your loved ones (see point #2), create a balance that also includes considering your own happiness. If you’re stuck in a rut, think of what is bringing you down, then brainstorm ways add in things that you really love doing, like hobbies you never make time for or planning for that big trip you’ve always wanted to take. Things like this will get you going, and get you through to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Are you going to take these steps to a more positive outlook? What helps lift you up when you’re feeling down? Share your ideas in the comments!